In relationships over the course of your life, you are either going to learn to apologize or learn to build walls.
Genesis 29-31 gives the account of Laban and Jacob. At the end of their relationship, Jacob explodes, telling Laban how much integrity he had in working for him. (See Genesis 31:36-42). When that was over, Laban had a perfect opportunity to apologize, to try to make things right. All it would have taken was a simple, ‘I’m sorry.” Laban didn’t do that. He never apologized to Jacob. Instead they came to an agreement that they would not kill each other. They built a sort of monument and promised each other they would not cross the line.
I have had to say I’m sorry to my wife, to my children, to my friends, to people with whom I serve in ministry. Each time, it took humility. But it’s just the right thing to do to please God and to have healthy relationships. As one pastor I respect much in a message about dealing with difficult people said, “As much as it depends upon you, strive to have a clear conscious.” When (not if) we w
rong others, be must be quick to apologize. Even if they tell you it’s not enough, even if they refuse to forgive, say, “I’m sorry.”
Otherwise, you’ll build a wall that will keep the person at a distance. Pretty soon, you’ll be alone and bitter.
Forgiveness and repentance brings freedom.